"This place is full of people willing to care if you let them, more so than anywhere else I've been, I think. That doesn't mean you have to let them though, it matters more what you want and are comfortable with, than the notion that you'll be 'letting them down' if you don't. But it may take some time to know what you want, that's a skill that must be learnt and practised, and not enough people realise that."